– Ingabe owesifazane angashada nowesilisa, noma owesilisa angashada nowesifazane, ngenxa yemali? Ingabe lokho kuvumelekile?
– Ukushada ngenxa yempahla yomuntu akukhona yini ukukhashelana nokudlala ngemizwa yomunye umuntu?
– Kufanele yini ukuthanda umuntu omthandayo bese ubhekana nazo zonke izinselelo, noma kufanele yini ukucabanga ngekusasa lezingane zakho kanye nelakho bese ushada nomuntu ocebile?
Mthandiwe, mzalwane wethu,
– Lapho sihlola noma yisiphi isihloko, kufanele sicabangele izinhlangothi ezimbili zendaba:
Omunye,
indaba
ngokwemibandela yomthetho wamaSulumane
ukuthi kufanelekile yini.
Omunye
kanti,
ngokombono wokuzithoba/ngokombono wokwesaba uNkulunkulu
Sizce uygun olup olmadığına bakacağız.
Ngokomthetho-sisekelo, kuma-fatwa
-akuzona ukuzithoba-
, kuthathwa njengemigomo yomthetho osemthethweni. Encwadini yezincwadi zamaSulumane
eyokuqala ibizwa ngokuthi “kadaen”, eyesibili ibizwa ngokuthi “diyaneten”
kuthwa isigwebo.
Dumezweni
“Sithatha izinqumo ngokwalokho esikubonayo, bese siyishiya indaba eyimfihlo kuNkulunkulu.”
ngokulandela umgomo wethu, nathi siyabheka ukuthi lolu daba luvumelekile yini, bese sithatha isinqumo ngokufanele.
Ngemva kokucacisa lezi zinto ezibalulekile, singawuphendula umbuzo ngale ndlela:
– Uma omunye wabantu abazoshada eshada ngenxa yengcebo yomunye umuntu
Akukho okuphambene nomthetho wamaSulumane.
Ngoba, inhloso enjalo ayikho phakathi kwemibandela yobunono bomshado.
– Ngokungangabazeki, ubudlelwano bobuzali obusekelwe ezimisweni zothando nenhlonipho yomunye nomunye buhlonipheke kakhulu, buqine kakhulu futhi buqotho kakhulu.
–
“Umfazi ushadiswa ngenxa yezinto ezine: ngoba enothile, ngoba uyinzalo yomndeni ohloniphekile, ngoba muhle, noma ngoba uyakholwa. Khethani umfazi oyakholwa, ngeke nibe nankathazo.”
(Muslim, Nikah, h. no: 53)
Kusukela ku-hadith eyiqiniso, kuyaqondakala ukuthi kuvumelekile ukushada nowesifazane ngenxa yempahla yakhe. Nokho, ukubeka isisekelo senkolo njengento ebalulekile yiyona ndlela efanele kakhulu yokuziphatha ngokokholo.
– Futhi masingakhohlwa ukuthi, ngezinye izikhathi
“uthando-lothando”
Akukona okungavamile ukuthi imishado eyenziwe ngenxa yezifiso nezinkanuko ezifihliweyo iphele kabi, kanti imishado eyenziwe ngenxa yemali iqhubeke kahle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, inokuthuthukisa inhlonipho nothando phakathi kwabashadene.
Ngiyabingelela ngithandazela…
UbuSulumane Ngemibuzo
