Mthandiwe, mzalwane wethu,
Uma indoda ivumela umkayo ukuba ahambe ngaphandle kwesigqoko, iyoba yiyo eba nesibopho. Kodwa uma umkayo ehamba ngaphandle kwesigqoko ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe, isibopho siba kowesifazane. Indoda ayibi nesibopho ngalokho.
Uma umfazi engayithobeli imiyalo yenkolo, umyeni wakhe uyamyala. Uyamfundisa izincwadi ezichaza umthetho nokubaluleka kokuzimboza, futhi azame ukumdlalisa izinkulumo ezinhle.
Uma ngabe uke wamtshela, kodwa akalaleli, kufanele umphathe ngesihluku esithile ngenhloso yokusindisa impilo yakhe yaphakade; uma ngabe naye akalaleli, kufanele umshiye isikhashana. Uma ngabe naye akalaleli, umsebenzi wakho usuphelile.
Manje isono sesowesifazane.
Akudingeki ukudivosa umfazi onjalo.
Kuyinto ebuhlungu kakhulu ukufaka isicelo sesehlukaniso, ikakhulukazi ngemva kokwakha umndeni nokuba nezingane. Njengoba kuvunyelwe ukushada nowesifazane ongumKristu noma ongumJuda, nakuba kungavunyelwe kahle enkolweni yamaSulumane, ukushada nowesifazane ongumSulumane oziphethe kabi kuyavunyelwa. Owesifazane oziphethe kabi ungcono kakhulu kunowesifazane ongumJuda noma ongumKristu.
Umsebenzi womfazi kumyeni wakhe:
1. Umbono.
Ngoba ukwaneliseka yisizathu sokuthula kwenhliziyo. Umfazi kufanele aqaphele ukuthi angamthukuthelisi umyeni wakhe, amqede uthando lwakhe ngaye nasekhaya lakhe, ngobugovu nangenkanuko. Ukwaneliseka kusho ukwanela ngalokho okwanele, ukungabi nkanuko.
2. Ukulalela umyeni.
Umprofethi wethu (ukuthula kube kuye)
“Uma owesifazane efa umyeni wakhe emthokozela, uyongena ezulwini.”
(Ibn Majah, Nikah, 4) wathi.
3. Hlanza.
Kufanele uqaphele futhi uhlanze kahle izindawo umyeni wakho azozibona. Kufanele wazi ukuthi into enhle kunazo zonke ehlanzayo futhi enikeza ubuhle yamanzi. Kufanele uhlale usebenzisa amakha amnandi.
4. Ukwanelisa izidingo.
Ukunaka isikhathi sokudla somyeni, ukungadluli isikhathi sokulala. Ukulungiselela ukudla nombhede womyeni ngesikhathi sakhe.
5. Ukuvikelwa kwempahla.
Ukuvikela impahla yomyeni, ngoba ukuvikela impahla kudinga ukuba nolwazi lwebhizinisi.
6. Ukuhlonipha izihlobo
Ukuhlonipha izihlobo nabantu abaseduze nomyeni. Ngoba ukuhlonipha kwakhe izihlobo nabantu abaseduze nomyeni kuvela ekulawuleni nasekuphatheni kahle.
7. Ukugcinwa kwemfihlo.
Owesifazane akufanele atshele muntu imfihlo ayithole kumyeni wakhe. Uma etshela, uzolahlekelwa ukwethenjwa ngumyeni wakhe. Futhi umyeni ngeke amthembe.
8. Ukuhlonipha nokudumisa.
Ukuthobela umyalo womyeni. Ukungamphikisi nokungamvukeli. Uma umphikisa, kungenzeka ukuthi umenzele inzondo futhi umenze isitha sakho.
Futhi, akukho muntu ovunyelwe ukucindezela umkakhe ukuba enze into ayithandayo, futhi owesifazane akaphoqelekile ukwenza izinto ezinjalo ngokwenkolo. Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane akaphoqelekile ukwenza ukudla noma ukunakekela izingane zakhe. Kodwa-ke, ukuze kube nokuthula nokuthula emndenini, ukuze kukhuliswe inhlonipho phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, kuyinto enhle ukuba owesifazane enze izinto ezisemthethweni nezinhle (ngisho noma engazithandi).
Ukuhlanganyela kwemisebenzi phakathi kwendoda nenkosikazi emndenini.
Emndenini yama-Islam, umndeni ubaluleke kakhulu futhi kufanele uvikelwe. Ngakho-ke, umndeni awushiywa ngaphandle kokulawulwa, futhi umuntu oyinhloko emndenini uyabhekwa njengomuntu obhekene nokuvikela amalungu awo. Lona muntu obhekene naye kufanele abe namandla okwenza izwi lakhe lizwakale, ukuze akwazi ukulawula labo abaphambuka emndenini, abagcine ngaphakathi kwemingcele yobulungiswa, futhi abenze balalele. Lona muntu onamandla okwenza izwi lakhe lizwakale emndenini wonke ngubaba nomyeni.
E-Islam, umndeni awunawo umholi ozithandela. Ngokuphambene, umholi womndeni ngumuntu othwala umthwalo wemisebenzi yomndeni wakhe, futhi nguye obhekene nokuthola indlela yokuziphilisa; okusho ukuthi, ubaba nomyeni nguye obhekene nokusebenza ngaphandle ukuze athole indlela yokuziphilisa yomndeni. Umfazi akadingi ukusebenza ngaphandle njengomholi womndeni ukuze athole indlela yokuziphilisa.
Ngesikhathi uMprofethi (ukuthula kube kuye) eshadisa indodakazi yakhe uFatima (ukuthula kube kuye) nendodana yakhe uAli (ukuthula kube kuye), waphathisa indodakazi yakhe uFatima izindaba zangaphakathi zendlu, waphathisa indodana yakhe uAli izindaba zangaphandle zendlu, wabe eseluleka kanje:
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Ukuleta amanzi emthonjeni, ukuxova inhlama nokwenza isinkwa, ukuhlanza indlu nokuhlela imisebenzi yasekhaya konke kwakungumsebenzi kaFatima. Imisebenzi yangaphandle yona yayingumsebenzi ka-Ali!
Nokho, njengoba indoda ingasiza emisebenzini yasekhaya, kuye kwavunyelwa ukuthi umfazi naye asekele indoda emisebenzini yangaphandle. Ngempela, uMprofethi (ukuthula nokubusiswa kube phezu kwakhe) wayesiza umndeni wakhe emisebenzini yasekhaya, futhi leyo ndlela yokusiza emsebenzini wasekhaya ibhalwe ezincwadini zethu njengendlela eyayenziwa nguMprofethi (ukuthula nokubusiswa kube phezu kwakhe) futhi kufanele ilandelwe ngabantu bakhe.
Ngiyabingelela ngithandazela…
UbuSulumane Ngemibuzo
