Mthandiwe, mzalwane wethu,
Incwadi yethu engcwele, iKur’an, iyachaza ukuthi yiziphi izihlobo eziseduze ezingavunyelwe ukushada nazo. Lezi zihlanganisa odadewethu, o-anti, o-malume, njll. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, kuvunyelwe ukushada nabazala, abazala baka-malume, abazala baka-anti, nabazala baka-malume. Umprofethi wethu naye wasebenzisa leli vumela kuye nakwabanye abaseduze naye. Njengoba kwaziwa, uZeyneb binti Cahş, omunye wabafazi bomprofethi, wayeyindodakazi ka-anti wakhe. Futhi, wayeshadisa indodakazi yakhe, uFatima, nendodana ka-malume wakhe, u-Ali.
Nakuba inkolo yethu ivumela ukushada nezihlobo eziseduze, kodwa ngenxa yezinkinga ezithile zofuzo nezempilo, sibona ukuthi emithadithini ethile akukhuthazwa ukushada nezihlobo eziseduze.
Imam-ı Gazali Hazretleri,
Lapho ebalula izimfanelo ezifunekayo kubantu abazoshada ngaphakathi kwemikhawulo yamasiko, ukhuluma nangokuthi intombazane akufanele ibe isihlobo esiseduze, ngoba lokho kungase kubangele ukuba imizwa yobulili ibe buthaka.
“Ungashadi umfazi osondelene kakhulu nawe; ngoba abantwana bazoba buthakathaka, baze bakhubazeke.”
(Terbiyetü’l-Evlâd, 1: 39; ihya, 2: 42)
ubeka i-hadith-i sharif yakhe.
Ngakho-ke, ngenxa yale ngozi, akukhuthazwa ukushada nomuntu osondelene kakhulu.
Ngokuphathelene nalokhu,
“Shadiselani nabantu abangabazi, ningashadiselani nabantu abaseduze nani.”
(Qadi Baydawi. Ghayat al-Ghusā, 2: 721)
Le hadith qui suit met également en lumière ces sagesses.
Kukhona ingozi enkulu kulolu daba.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma kuba khona ukungaboni ngaso linye phakathi kwabashade, izibopho ezingokomoya okufanele ziqhubeke phakathi kwezihlobo ziyancipha. Enye yezindaba ezivela ku-Imam Deylami, owayengomunye wabaholi be-hadith, ithi ukushada nezihlobo kungaholela ekunqamukeni kwezibopho zokuzalana.
Njengakuyo yonke imishado, ikakhulukazi emshadweni phakathi kwezihlobo.
ukutholwa kokungahambelani kwegazi
Kukucabanga ngayo njengendlela yokuthuthukisa inhlanzeko kungaba yinzuzo enkulu.
Njengoba sishilo ekuqaleni, akukho ngqangi umthetho wenkolo ovimbela ukushada nezihlobo eziseduze. Akukho nesiqinisekiso sokuthi izinkinga zempilo ezishiwo zizovela ngempela. Nokho, izinkinga ezithile ezingase zibonakale enganeni zivame ukubonakala kakhulu emshadweni wezihlobo kunasemshadweni nomuntu ongahlobene.
Ukuze uthole ulwazi olwengeziwe, chofoza lapha:
– UKUSHADISANA KWABAZALWANE
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