Mthandiwe, mzalwane wethu,
Kulelo mbuzo ngokushesha
“yebo”
noma
“cha”
Kunzima ukusho. Ngoba umbuzo awucacile ngokwanele ngalendlela. Kudingeka ukuthi ukhanyiswe ngombuzo omunye.
“Kuphi? Ngokuphathelene nani? Ngayiphi indlela?”
njengokuthi. Uma,
“ngokombono wezomthetho”
uma kubuzwa, impendulo ithi
“yebo”
singasho.
Uma kushiwo ukuthi kunjalo kuzo zonke izinto, khona-ke, akudingeki ukuba siphendule lo mbuzo. Ngoba impendulo isesimweni sombuzo. Njengoba kukhulunywa ngezinhlobo ezimbili ezihlukene, khona-ke, ukulingana okuphelele kungacabangelwa kanjani?
Kunezindawo lapho abesifazane nabesilisa belingana khona, kodwa kunezindawo lapho abesilisa beshiya abesifazane kude kakhulu, noma lapho abesifazane beshiya abesilisa kude kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, akunakwenzeka ukuxazulula le nkinga ngendlela eyodwa.
Uma
,
“Ingabe kukhona umehluko phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa mayelana nokuba umuntu omuhle noma umuntu ophakeme?”
Uma kubuzwa, singathanda ukusho lokhu ngokushesha:
Ukuphatha ngolunye, ubuhle nobuhle kungenye.
Kuleli ndaba, kunzima kakhulu ukusho ngokuqinisekile ukuthi omunye umuntu uphakeme kunomunye. Ngoba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngowesifazane noma ngowesilisa, wonke umuntu uyinceku kaNkulunkulu. Uphakeme kuphela lowo Nkulunkulu amthanda kakhulu, amthanda ngaphezu kwabanye, nalowo amthokozelayo. Uma sibheka iKur’an, isiyalo sikaNkulunkulu, sibona ukuthi isilinganiso sokuba ngophakeme akusona ubulili, kodwa…
ukuzithoba
siyabona ukuthi iyaphuma.
Yebo, isilinganiso sobukhulu phambi kukaNkulunkulu ukumesaba uNkulunkulu.
Kuyini ukuthakwa?
Ngamafuphi, ukwesaba uNkulunkulu kusho ukuzigwema izono, ukuzigwema izenzo, izimo, izimo zengqondo, namazwi angamthokozisi. Ukuthola ukwamukeleka kwakhe njengenjongo enkulu, nokwesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa yiyo. Ngakho-ke, noma ngubani owenza kanjalo, nguye umuntu ophakeme, umuntu onezimfanelo ezinhle. Kuleli qophelo, ubulili abubalulekile.
Uma kukhulunywa ngokumesaba uNkulunkulu, sikhumbula ngokushesha izenzo ezilungile.
Izenzo ezilungileyo,
Ngakho-ke, ukwenza izinto ezinhle, ezifanelekile. Futhi kulokhu akubhekwa ubulili. Ngokwesibonelo, uma umuntu ethola izinhlanhla eziyishumi ngohlamvu ngalunye lwe-Quran alufundayo, lokhu kusebenza kubo bonke abantu. Akukho ukuthi owesifazane uthola izinhlanhla ezimbalwa kanti owesilisa uthola eziningi.
Singabuye sibheke lo mbuzo ngendlela yengqondo, bese sibuza kanje:
Ingabe kukhona umehluko ngokwengqondo phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa?
Ngaphandle kokungabaza nakancane kulo mbuzo.
“ngokuqinisekile”
Siyaphendula kanjalo. Umehluko wezengqondo phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa uqala ukubonakala kusukela ebuntwaneni. Amathoyizi abafana namantombazane ahlukene. Intombazane ithanda kakhulu onodoli. Kuleyo minyaka lapho ingakazi ukuthi umshado uyini, ibamba onodoli bayo, ibaqabule, ibashintshe izingubo, ibalalele embhedeni, ibalalele. Isebenzisa ingxenye enkulu yosuku nabo. Umfana yena, uthanda kakhulu amathoyizi anjengamatekisi, izindiza, izibhamu.
Lapho lezi zingane zikhula, izingxoxo zazo ziyashintsha. Emihlanganweni yamadoda, kukhulunywa kakhulu ngempilo yebhizinisi noma ngombuso, kanti kwabesifazane, izinto zasendlini nokuluka zithatha indawo yokuqala.
Kukhona umehluko obonakalayo phakathi kwabantu bobulili obubili ngokuya ngamakhono.
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Indoda iyaphambili ekwakheni nasekuhlaziyeni, kanti owesifazane uyaphambili ekulingiseni nasekufundeni ngekhanda. Ngokwesibonelo; indoda iyaphambili kunowesifazane ekwakheni umsebenzi wobuciko, ekubekeni izingxenye zawo zonke ngendlela enhle. Owesifazane yena, uyaphambili kunendoda ekuhlobiseni noma iyiphi ingxenye yomsebenzi ngemisebenzi yezandla enemininingwane.
Indoda ivuleleke kakhulu emhlabeni wangaphandle. Iphansi kowesifazane ngothando, kodwa iphakeme ngamandla okuthatha izinyathelo. Owesifazane yena, uma eqhathaniswa nendoda, uqonde ngaphakathi kakhulu. Inzuzo enkulu yalokhu yisikhathi nokuqaphela azosinika umntanakhe nendlu yakhe.
Ubuthakathaka balezi zinhlobo ezimbili buyahlukahluka:
Kwesilisa, kukhona isifo sokuzithoba nokucindezela. Kwabesifazane, kukhona isifo sokuzibonakalisa nokuzenza.
Enye yezimpawu ezisobala zowesifazane ubuzwevu bakhe.
Kulokhu
“ukuzisola”
Kuthiwa. Owesifazane uzwela kakhulu kunowesilisa ngemvelo. Ngakho-ke, usengozini enkulu yokuthonywa, ukukhohliswa kunowesilisa.
Ukuqonda kwabesifazane kunamandla kakhulu kunokwabesilisa.
Udinga ushintsho kakhulu kunaye, uvuleleke kakhulu ezintweni ezintsha nasezintweni ezivusa amadlingozi. Ngokosayizi womzimba nangamandla, owesifazane uvame ukuba ngaphansi kowesilisa. Ngenxa yalokhu, isidingo sokuphepha sizwakala kakhulu kowesifazane. Kodwa kwabanye, lesi sidingo siphenduka isimo sokuzizwa ngaphansi; lokhu kubonakala njengokuzizwa ngaphansi kowesilisa.
Umfazi, kumlingani wakhe wempilo
(ngokumqhathanisa naye)
kakhulu okubambelelayo.
Uthembeke kakhulu kunaye. Uphambili kakhulu kunaye ngothando lwezwe.
Kufanele umhlolisise owesifazane ngaphakathi kwaleyo ndlela yengqondo, bese uzama ukumenza abe ngumfazi omuhle, hhayi ukumenza abe njengendoda.
Hadi etrafımıza bir göz atalım:
Kuzo zonke izidalwa, kukhona ukuhambisana okuhle phakathi kwemizimba nemiphefumulo. Ukufaka umphefumulo wengwenya emzimbeni wengonyama nokumphoqa ukuba aziphathe njengengonyama, kuqala kuyowulimaza lowo mphefumulo omuhle. Ngokubhowa ngakunye, ulahlekelwa yingxenye yobuhle bawo; ngesinyathelo ngasinye, ucekelisa phansi ingxenye yobuhle bawo. Ukuthi abesifazane nabesilisa bayalingana, bese kuphoqwa abesifazane ukuba baziphathe njengabesilisa, kuqala kuyowulimaza umuntu wesifazane.
Eqinisweni, imizamo ehlosiwe nengamandla ekhonjiswe kuleli banga ayizange ishintshe lutho.
“Isinqumo sinqunywa nguvuthu wezwi.”
ngokusekelwe kulesi simiso, singasho lokhu:
Abesifazane basabantu besifazane, abesifazane basabantu abasebenzi, abesifazane basabantu ababhali, abesifazane basabantu abanobhala, abesifazane basabantu abasebenzi basendizeni, abesifazane basabantu abadayisi. Ngoba, akunakwenzeka ukushintsha indalo.
Ngeshwa, asikaze sikwazi ukumnika owesifazane indawo emfanelayo.
Noma sasingathi ukondleka kwakhe kuncike kithi, sazama ukumbusa ngokweqile, samphatha ngendlela engafanele noma samnika amathuba amaningi kakhulu, samkhuthaza ukuba abe yindoda, samonakalisa.
Ngiyabingelela ngithandazela…
UbuSulumane Ngemibuzo
